This
is for all the ladies out there who have waited behind while the person they
love shipped out overseas for what seemed like endless months.
Remember
when we had those moments where we just thought we couldn’t do it anymore?
I
do.
I
remember when his deployment got extended an extra 6 months (total of 1 year)
and I got in bed and cried every single day for a week straight and
contemplated on how in the world I was going to be able to go an extra 6 months
without him.
I
remember when I was at my internship and I got an email from the FRO saying,
“If you’re receiving this email, then that means your Marine is coming home
next week!” I remember making phone calls to my supervisor and boss immediately
to take off that week from my internship and work. I also remember when not even 24 hours later,
the FRO emailed us back saying, “I’m so sorry but please disregard that email.
They won’t be home until August.” I remember ignoring every person I was with and
walking straight into my bedroom, shutting my door, and bursting into the
ugliest cry I think I’ve ever had (that type of stuff messes with your head,
man.)
I
remember being at my college graduation and emailing him during my ceremony
because he was the person who I really wanted to be there.
I
remember making the move to North Carolina and feeling extremely alone and
nervous.
I
remember him telling me that the word is that they’ll be coming home in June. I
was so angry that he had put an earlier date in my head because of everything
that happened in the past few months. I didn’t want to be thinking about June.
I didn’t want any part of me to get my hopes up. Hope for the best, expect the
worst.
I
remember it being mid-June and still not getting a date for his homecoming (at
this point, we were in the tenth month of his deployment). I remember sitting
on the balcony of my third floor apartment and crying on the phone to my friend
saying, “I am so terrified that July will creep up and he will still be
overseas. I can’t feel that heartbreak
and disappointment again. HE can’t feel that heartbreak and disappointment
again. I’m terrified we’ll have to feel that again."
When
a person you love is deployed, your emotions will be played with. There is so
much worrying, longing, and fearing for their safety that will take place. When J’s deployment got extended, those
emotions went into overdrive. I was not myself. I knew it and my friends knew
it. Honestly, I don’t think I went back to being myself until the love of my
life was back in my arms after a 305 day deployment (yep, most people who have a
love one deployed will probably be able to tell you exactly how many days
they’ve been gone).
So…despite
all of those times that I felt like I couldn’t do it or that I couldn’t make
it, I DID make it. I was proud of J, proud of myself, and proud of us as a
couple that we made it through the most challenging time of both of our lives.
We didn’t just make it, we grew and we thrived from it. Our love grew immensely
stronger, our support for one another magnified. We, as a couple, came out
stronger. We, as individuals, came out
stronger.
So…to
all of you who are waiting at home for the man or woman you love, this is someone who
has been through it telling you that you WILL make it! It’s okay to have those
feelings of not being able to make it. It’s okay to have those days where you
lay in bed all day and cry. It’s okay to have those nights where you spray his
cologne on his pillow and listen to the saved voicemails you have from so you
can hear it’s voice (I probably did this last one way too often, woops). Don’t feel like you have to be strong ALL THE
TIME. It’s okay to have your sad days, your mad days, and your hopeless days.
Just make sure those days don’t turn into EVERY day. I promise that you can do
this.
Don’t
lose hope, keep hanging in there, support your loved one overseas, and keep
kicking ass! Deployment will end. It always does. It is NOT forever, only temporary.
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